I have seen so many posts and articles about how to be a better mother: how to stop yelling at your kids, how to stop losing patience, how to be the best mommy you can, how to dress up yoga pants. All the information is nice and yes, I need to work on not elevating my voice all the time, I need to focus on taking deep breaths and staying calm, I need to be… the… best.. Mommy, ok you know what? I need to be the best mommy that I am capable of and sometimes that best mommy is short on patience but long on love and my yoga pants are just fine, thank you.
What I really want to share is how watching British movies and television made me into a better mommy. I love BBC and British movies. I think that the programs are better, the accents are sexy, and the moms are all a little bit off of their rocker. I can relate. I may not have a sexy accent and with my ongoing allergies I sound more like Snuffleupagus than Bridget Jones but the point remains that English moms are kind of awesome.
Take Mrs. Hudson, she is not a mom per say but she is motherly to Sherlock and John. I love her. She doesn’t cook, she is nosy, and she sent her husband off to prison. She is my hero. Seriously, she takes care of two men who need constant looking after and she always has to remind them that she is not their housekeeper. It reminds me of my boys.
Madge Arwell from Doctor Who. She kicks definite ass and brings her husband back from the dead. She was in no way going to raise those kids by themselves. The definition of a mom who knows what she has to do.
And let’s not forget the mother of them all, Molly Weasley of Harry Potter for you people living under a rock or who swear allegiance to He Who Must Not Be Named. I think she is the absolute best mom out there. She had tragedy in her past, raised 7 kids, and will take down anyone who tries to get to her husband or children. She is frumpy, funny, loving and I wish I was her. Do you know how fast laundry would go if I had magic? I would make self-cleaning clothes for god’s sake!
You could even say that Edwina Monsoon from Absolutely Fabulous is a good mom though this one is a stretch. She abuses drugs, depends on her daughter to take care of her, and is hopeless. But she loves her daughter and in her semi-lucid stupor does try be a good mom. She fails spectacularly at it but she does try.
In the end, we moms need to hear advice and we need to know that we are not the only ones who don’t always get it right but we always try. I don’t need someone to point out all of my faults, I do that on a daily basis but it’s nice when you realize that you are not the only one who forgets snack day or clean clothes or how to have conversations that don’t start out with Disney characters. And I can always fake a British accent to make myself feel better!